Starting a business can be scary. Pursuing our dreams of going from aspiring entrepreneurs to entrepreneurs can be scary. Making a massive change in your life can be scary.
But what if we’re making it harder than it needs to be?
When we first get the idea of the business we want to start, we tend to ask everyone and their mother about their opinion on the topic.
“Do you think this is a good idea?” “Would you buy x,y,z?” “Do you think I can do it?”
We get so, so excited about this particular idea then BAM. People completely shut us down with their limiting beliefs.
“You don’t want to start your own business, now is not the time.” “Why would you ever leave the security of your corporate job? That’s crazy!” “SO many people are already doing that, don’t do it!” “I don’t think you’d be able to handle it.”
We go from excitement to all of a sudden feeling terrible about ourselves.
Then we start to backtrack. We don’t start the business and we stay unfulfilled with what we’re doing in our lives.
The #1 mistake aspiring entrepreneurs make is asking advice from people who are not living the life they want to live, then absorbing that particular person’s limiting beliefs.
We make it SO MUCH harder on ourselves by adopting other people’s limiting beliefs.
For instance, why would we ask our 65-year old aunt’s opinion on our business idea when we already know that she works miserably in her 9-5 at a bank and never pursued her dream of becoming an artist?
Obviously she isn’t going to be supportive guys!
Her limiting beliefs about pursuing her passion for being an artist has held her hostage for 65 years!
She may say, “it’s really hard, you’re not going to make much money and you have student loans, blah blah.”
Then once we hear that we get inside of our heads and absorb those limiting beliefs and tell ourselves…
“Maybe she’s right, I am 30k in debt, what am I thinking!!?!?!” and your mind starts spiraling and imposter syndrome kicks in.
Then it’s back to square one.
Here are 3 things you can do to ensure that you’re not making starting your business harder on yourself by absorbing other people’s limiting beliefs.
DON’T ASK THEIR ADVICE IF THEY AREN’T LIVING THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE.
I SWEAR by this guys, and you’ll hear me talk about it a lot.
As an aspiring entrepreneur, it’s so important that you’re always mindful of who you are you asking advice from, and who you are sharing your ideas with.
Just like the aunt example, if you’re parents or someone you love and often seek advice from is miserable in their professional life, they’re likely not the person you want to ask business advice from or share your ideas with.
One limiting belief from someone we love can knock us off our momentum game so quickly. We have to protect that momentum at all costs.
MAKE SURE WHOEVER YOU’RE TELLING YOUR IDEA TO UNDERSTANDS THE INDUSTRY.
This especially goes for the online business space.
Nine times out of ten, people are often just confused about what an online business is.
Maybe they’ve never heard of an e-book or e-course before, and that confusion is leading them to sound unsupportive when they really just don’t know what the heck it is you want to do.
When I first told Erik about wanting to start my business, he played devils advocate a bit and then eventually he admitted that he didn’t have the slightest clue what the online business industry was.
I got defensive about his questions when in reality he was just confused about what I wanted to do, so make sure you’re as clear as possible so no wires get crossed!
DON’T TELL THEM!
There’s no shame in keeping things to yourself, sis. You have to protect our energy and momentum. If hearing negative things from people is going to throw you off, you can’t afford that.
You’re on a mission to start the business you’ve dreamed of starting for years now.
You can get 10 steps ahead and hear one limiting belief and it takes you 11 steps backward.
Protect your mind and emotions at all costs, and you’ll get that business up and running in no time!
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